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Could My Daughter's Boyfriend Be An Abuser?
What Are The Signs
For Me To Look For?
Most all teenage girls are moody as they head towards young
adulthood. But……
____ Is your daughter spending all her time with the boyfriend?
____ Has she stopped socializing with her other friends?
____ Has she become emotionally dependant on him?
____ Has she started pulling away from the family?
____ Has she stopped participating in school/church activities
like she used to?
____ Has your daughter suddenly seem sad or depressed?
____ Was she very happy in the
relationship then become sullen and withdrawn even when
talking about the boyfriend?
____ Is she wanting to be alone more and
more?
____ Is she crying more than usual?
____ Is her self-esteem eroding?
____ Does your daughter jump to make excuses for the boyfriend’s
behavior?
Questions About the
Boy
____ Does he put her down and give
constant criticism?
____ Does he treat her with respect?
____ Does he treat YOU with respect?
____ Does he constantly give her advice that he expects her to
follow?
____ Does he insist she wear a certain type of clothing or wear
her hair a certain way?
____ Did he declare his ‘love’ for her soon after they start
dating?
____ Does her boyfriend act jealous if she talks to other boys or
men?
____ If she starts to speak about another boy does he start
making put down comments or abruptly change the
subject?
____ Was this boy raised in an abusive household?
____ When he speaks of his mother or grandmother is it with
respect?
____ Does he call her (or anyone) bad names?
____ How does he treat animals?
____ Does your child have bruises or cuts that excuses are
made for that don’t
seem plausible?
____ Does your daughter’s boyfriend always insist on knowing
exactly where she is?
____ Does he call or page her constantly so he can keep tabs on
her whereabouts?
____ Does he always want to know who she is with and when she
will be back? .
Girls may interpret this constant communication as special attention or
’being swept off her feet’, especially at first.
Note: This list is not
comprehensive. Your particular situation may be
somewhat different. If you still feel you are being abused, seek
professional counseling. Nothing in this checklist should be considered
a substitute for counseling.
If you feel you are
in an abusive relationship, get help now!
You can take the
first step by calling the National Domestic Violence
Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) (TDD 1-800-787-3224) or go to http://www.ndvh.org.
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